06 March, 2022 @ 10:28am
by Jan Viljoen
G • P • S
A much diluted and illustrative representation of the actual Human GPS System of Life.
In general terms the abbreviation GPS stands for the Global Positioning Satellite system that we use to “pin point” our geographical position on this planet of ours. However, G P S - in a AltanaESP context - refers to our personal Generic Positioning BelieveSystem, which is an integrated and cumulative combination of our knowledge reference structures, beliefs, norms, values, expectations, hopes and dreams that we use to “pin point” our current standing relative to our future position or space (i.e. a synergy between our expectations or vision) and intended progress (i.e. our future plans or mission) in life.
Our GPS - as with plenty of other dynamics of our umwelt - also have two sides to the same coin, which may or may not result in a cognitive dissonance and our own personal Newton's Cradle trap(or differently put… our personal hell), which mainly surface via our environmental noise filter ”forcing” as to often say/preach/mean one thing, and actually do another. The key opposing “GPS coordinates” of basic reference can be indicated and described as follows…
►►► the “I feel…“toxic side of the Behavioural Barometer ”coin”, which is ego based and driven. Thus, a
melancholyplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigOngoing emotions and feelings of pensive-persistent sadness, worry and stress, Typically with no direct obvious cause.
I am alone in a cruel, harsh and unforgiving world. I feelseparated This belief maintains a view that the world is a place full of judgment, hostility and separation; voided of forgiveness and union. Having this belief of separation, we see ourselves as set against or opposed to everything in “our world”. When our view of life originate from and is strengthened by this belief, it is only logical that we would build “strong” and impenetrable psyche walls, develop elaborate mind defences and purposefully establish strategies to protect ourselves from a ruthless, cruel and hostile world.from everybody else.
To obtain safety and peace of mind, I must harshly judge others and be quick todefend This belief results in an action model that constantly analyses every person and situation in microscopic detail, relying exclusively on past experiences for information (i.e. ignoring the power of now, seize the moment and the situational context). We use this analysis and reasoning to assume, judge, categorize, make sweeping statements, stereotype and label every person and/or situation in our umwelt, initiating a get all we can – as quickly as we can – alignment in life because there isn't enough of anything to go around and as a result, we ferociously attack anything that might threaten our “getting” something that is rightfully ours.myself.
My way is the only right and correct way because myviews To feel good about ourselves, We need to be perfect all of the time… this is a belief that produces a mindset of 'I must be right every time and all the time', and anything other than being right, will result in a self-destructive and guilt-shame-fear cycle. Our self-esteem is irrationally based upon a belief of being perfectly right (i.e. 101%) all the time, in what we think, reason about and/or do.always are factually accurate and correct.
Attack and defense are myonly This is a vicious point of view by which a victim attitude sustain and strengthen itself. When we believe that we are all alone in this world and there is not enough to share, it makes perfect sense to either lash out in retaliation or defend ourselves against those whom we think might or could harm us. Every time we judge and attack another, it increases our perceptions and feeling of being in constant danger and we need more defences, and so… the attack-defence cycle continues till the day all our energies, power and vitality are drained from our bodies, mind and soul.safety and security in this hostile world.
The past and the future are real and need to be constantlyevaluated and worried This belief frequently accumulate in constant worrying thoughts as a result of a perceived situation – originating from past experiences, understandings and knowledge – that there is no such thing as a safe and secure future. We feel guilty about our past actions, are ashamed of our current behaviour and fear that what we “see” as important and valuable, won't be there tomorrow. These thoughts and subsequent actions, tend to snowball. It starts slow, innocent enough and overtime - gathers momentum - and becomes so demanding, that we “simply cannot live” without having a certain substance, possession or person(s). As this snowball gets bigger and more powerful, it develops a mind of its own, it distorts our perceptions, warp our ideas, cloud our views, bamboozle our ideas and - eventually - we completely lose our foothold in reality and control of our lives.about.
Guilt isinescapable This is an extension of the preceding beliefs. This is a certainty that we have done some horrible things in the past, which are so bad that we must feel guilty and that keeps us in constant shame, which places a low ceiling on our self-worth and leave us completely exposed and vulnerable to the whims of countless forcesplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigI.e. forces that is either externally, internally or a combination of both. For example: "I am a very emotional person, and because s/he did this... I have no other choice but to do or feel this way... that we have no control over.because the past is real and cast in stone.
Mistakes call forjudgment and punishment, This belief is founded on a view that we should swiftly judge and harshly punish ourselves - as well as other offenders - for every little mistake that we make. This, in combination with a belief of “my way, is the right and only way”, makes for a thinking & reasoning process in which inner conflicts becomes inevitable, and which leave very little room for self-growth and realizing our true potential gets derailed. not correction, guidance and learning.
Fear isreal! This is the main way in which a victimized-addictive mind remains firmly intact. Our ego creates an acute state of constant fears within us and effectively keeps us from questioning the illusionary foundation on which it actually stands. Do not question it!
Other people are responsible for how I feel. The situation is thedeterminer This belief lies at the core of the blaming game. This is the prevailing belief system when we are certain that peace of mind occurs only through luck or the roll of the dice, and isn't a conscious choice. This materializes in a view on life when we are thinking that if we have luck… we must be happy and bad situations leave us with no other choice but to be unhappy. This belief is noticeable by a permanent attitude inclination of “if only such-and-such were different, then I could have been happy”. of my experience.
If I am going to make it in this world, I mustpit myself This belief is constantly comparing ourselves (i.e. our self-worth and self-esteem) with others and open us up for the negative impact of the comparison trap, which – in the end - distinguish people as either superior or inferior. This approach to relationships and interactions effectively prevents us from productive cooperation and co-creative behaviours and actions.against others. Another's loss is my gain and vica versa.
I need something or someoneoutside of myself A firm belief that we need something or someone else to be whole - which often put us on a roller coaster ride in life - compelling us to compulsively search for happinessplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigHappiness Can Be Learned
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The results showed that several psychological well-being measures gradually increased within participants from the beginning to the end of the course. That was especially true for life satisfaction, perceived well-being, self-awareness and brainfundamentalbrain in possessions, substances or other people. This prevents us from experiencing true intimacy because the relationship is essentially based on filling perceived lacks, wants and needs. This is the common denominator of the modern human rat race which “force” us to chase one mirage after another, finding only hourglass-sand in our futile and desperate attempts to be happy and fulfilled. to complete, fulfil and make me happy.
My self-worth is based on how well I canplease others This believe normally cause an endless cycle of catch-22 incidents. In our compulsive and desperate quest to please divine forces, superior powers and various trendsetting individuals, we essentially abandon who we really are and lose our sense of self. In part, this belief gives rise to codependency, which frequently results in inner disagreements of being a “people pleaser” or merely “an act of compassionate kindness”. The eventual answer depends on our authentic intentions, ethics and expectations. When doing something for someone out of compassion and with a real sense of our wholeness, it is an act of kindness. Conversely, when we please others as a way to feel good about ourselves, this will eventually lead us to feelings of inadequacy, frustration, despair and being misused. Thus, it is not the act in itself that determines whether we behave in a codependent manner, it is the motivation, WILL, attitude and beliefs underlying such an act..
Ican control A belief which often leads us to compulsively and relentlessly try to control everything and anything around us. The primary foundation of narcissistic actions. When we cling to this belief we constantly feel tense, are stressed and in constant fear of losing control. When we hang on to this belief for dear life, we see others – especially family members – as an extension of ourselves. If a child – for example – misbehaves or a spouse acts in bad taste, we take it personally. We want to make sure that people - for whom we care - meet certain standards. However, such standards are rarely consistently met, and so embarrassment, guilt, shame and fear become our constant companions. This results in fleeting moments of thin contentment, because when things are going “according to plan”, it is only a matter of time, before somebody does something, pointing out that we cannot control others. Normally, to compensate for this lack of control, we either become overly preoccupied with our achievements or it results in more desperate attempts to control others in various ways… often threatening with money, privileges or promises of riches.other people's thoughts and subsequently their behaviours.
►►► the “I am…“nourishing side of the Behavioural Barometer ”coin”, which is unity based and driven. Thus, a
happinessplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_big An ongoing sense of well-being, joy and contentment. When we are secure and safe in who we are, we experience happiness, even in the face of adversities.
What I see in others is merely a reflection of myown state of mind There is an underlying unity to everything in life and one lacks nothing to be content, happy and whole RIGHT NOW! This three-part belief germinate from a realization, that what we see in the world around us, is one's own state of mind reflected outwards. Thus, we are always looking at the world through the filter of our views, opinions, thoughts, perspectives and beliefs, which determine how we see other people, experience events and interpret circumstances. Secondly, we realize and recognize that we are not detached from one another, but we are – in fact – connected by a golden thread of compassion. Thirdly, this belief implies that we are whole and without lack (i.e. abundance versus scarcity), allowing us to turn to the love within each of us, instead of scheming and manipulating others (i.e. the outer world) for us to be happy and acquire inner peace..
My safety lies in my vulnerability and defenselessness, because compassion needsno defense This a believe to lay down our defenses and adopt an attitude of acceptance. Contrary to what the ego constantly tells us, defences will not make us feel more secure. It will merely increase our feelings of separation, isolation and fear. It is impossible to feel secure (i.e. experience peace of mind), when we continuously build “high walls” behind which we could hide and attack others. Our vulnerability is more of an asset and strength than a sign of weakness. Truly accepting who and what we are, is what genuinely brings our peace of mind..
My self-esteem is not based upon myperformance We are all born into this world completely worthwhile, lovable, without shame or guilt and fully trusting the process of life. It, therefore, is our responsibility to get back in touch with the essence of who we are, the essence of our beingness. Unfortunately, most of us grew up, indoctrinated and conditioned to believe that “not being perfect”, implies that we have failed miserably. When our self-esteem is based on a “high level” of performance, we invariably will end up feeling inadequate, clinging desperately to a toxic belief that performance and self-esteem are synonyms. With this belief determining our attitude, we either become overachievers (trying to a peace and impress the powers at be) or underachievers (its no use anyway, no matter what I do, I will never be good enough). We must realize and affirm, that we are lovable… no matter what!. Love is unconditional.
Forgiveness, with no exception, ensurespeace and harmony Albert Einstein once suggested that if the human race is to survive the nuclear bomb (i.e. modern technology), our thinking as a species must change. This is equally true for relationships… interpersonally, nationally and internationally. The world of today seems to enthusiastically support a collective consciousness that bullying, defence and attack are legitimate means to ensure our safety and security. When we want to experience real safety and authentic security, we must change our way of thinking by beginning to forgive, rather than to occupy our everyday thoughts of defence, attack and retaliation. Forgiveness is the subtle shift in our view of life, which gradually allows us to recognize and respond to our commonalities, instead of emphasizing and reacting to our differences..
Only thepresent is real This believe is all about embracing the power of now and seize the moment, opens the door to love and compassion, and - simultaneously - shuts the door to judgment, fears and worries. This believe refocus our awareness and attention on the now, what is currently important (i.e. a priority) and relieves us from most stress-related ailments, which is caused by a preoccupation with the past and/or attempting to predict what the future holds for us that often manifest as future shock.. The past is over and the future is not yet here.
For me to change my experiences, I must first change mythoughts This belief implies that we must often pay careful attention (by means of frequent reflections) to our thoughts and our attitudes that might require adjustment. In doing so, we can spend most of our efforts, time and energies to cooperate and co-create instead of complaining, judging, finding fault, criticizing, blaming, being afraid and being “completely stressed out”..
Mistakes calls forcorrection This belief is in direct contrast to the illusionary belief that people learn the best by telling them what NOT to do and experiencing pain… either physically, emotional abuse or bullying. It is much more efficient to rather recognize their efforts and patiently assist them to accept and take the responsibility to compassionately guide them to correct the mistakes that they have made.guidance and learning, rather than judgment and punishment.
Only compassion isreal Through a thought system of love, compassion and forgiveness, we realize that the world is collectively based on inherent faulty beliefs and illusions. Compassion has no enemy, nor a fear of being destroyed and - because there is nothing to oppose compassion - there is no need for either defense or attack.. And what is real cannot be threatened.
I am responsible for the world I see, and Ichoose With this believe, we give up the blame game and begin to take responsibility for our own lives and answerability towards others (i.e. individual responsibility within group accountabilityplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigAccountability
Many people view accountability and responsibility as the same thing, leading to many misunderstandings and unnecessary conflicts. The dictionary meaning - in short - of responsibility is “the state of being held as the cause of something that needs to be set right).the emotions and feelings that I experience. I decide upon the goal(s) I would like to achieve.
To give is to receive. For me togain This equation is very simple (i.e. KISS), to have peace… give peace. To know compassion… offer compassion. Contentment and peace of mind is found through sharing and joining, NOT selfishness and separation., nobody has to lose.
I amcomplete When we truly believe this, all forms of seeking happiness outside of ourselves cease to continue. Upon realizing that we already have what we are looking for, we feel whole again, relieved and also a little amused by our silliness to seek “outside” peace of mind.right now!
My self-worth comes fromloving and accepting We cannot genuinely love and accept other people without loving and accepting ourselves first, period!myself as I am today, and then share this with others.
I cannotchange nor control This belief simply states clearly that we realize what powers we have and what powers we don't have. This doesn't mean that we should not say how we feel and/or speak out against cruel, violent and oppressive behaviour. It simply means that we influence the thoughts, actions and behaviours of others by setting an example of compassion, understanding, forgiveness and acceptance. Important to realize under these conditions, is that the spiritual law of “sowing and reaping” and the natural law of “live by the sword and die by the sword” is quite often beyond our control and normally surface as “what must happen, will happen”.others, but I can change how I perceive and treat other people.
Our GPS is the inner map that we create, compile and update consistently as we progres through life, experience the world around us and perceive our reality. Our GPS is the fundamentalplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigFundamental Principles
...~ Mark Victor Hansen.
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Remember that patience is a virtue and source point of references that we use to navigate and negotiate the current circumstances that we are confronted with. The efficiency of our navigation (i.e. our subsequent behaviours and actions) is mainly determined by our emotional maturity status and the inclination of whether we are inclined to either react or respond to obstacles that we encounter in life.