People - referred to as enablers - tends to “encourage” individuals to remain static and primarily deal with needed change by focusing on “correcting” or “changing” the environment, circumstances, external or outer sources of conflict and/or difficulties experienced, which - frequently - merely are the various surfacing symptoms of an obstacle's root cause. Enablers tend to either belittle or minimize the individual's own effect or impact for his/her contributing actions and behaviour’s that keeps the problem or issue “alive and kicking”.
The strategy mainly employed by enablers are to explore the situation and circumstances, search for valid excuses or reasons WHY things are the way they are at the present moment and then formulate a problem-solution strategy centring around the troubled individual as the actual “innocent” victim of unfair circumstances. Enablers identify the “real circumstantial” cause(s) of trouble and neutralize it as best they could, frequently just dealing with the symptoms rather than dealing with the root of the difficulty experienced.
This attitude (although very sympathetic, quite understanding and generally acceptable) does little to address and solve actual problems, and which merely result in “letting the person feel better” and to improve his/her skills of playing a more efficient blaming game (e.g. it's not really my fault - it
just happens and is what it isplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigIt is societies fault, the government, circumstances, my father, mother, my spouse, the crime in this country, because people are sinners, uncivilized individuals, uneducated people, politics, the economic slump, ....etc.), efficiently redirecting focus from the individual's own responsibility and share (i.e. accountabilityplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigAccountability
Many people view accountability and responsibility as the same thing, leading to many misunderstandings and unnecessary conflicts. The dictionary meaning - in short - of responsibility is “the state of being held as the cause of something that needs to be set right) in solving the problem. Enablers seldom - if ever - confront anyone that they guide or assist; instead, enablers actively help an individual to “ignore”, deny or cover up his/her share of the problem and contribution to the sustaining of an unhealthy dynamic system.
In essence, enablers are avoiding confrontations, straining relationships or rocking the boat, especially when such confrontation could be in opposition to the matrix, against society's collective consciousness, general expectations and/or “proven” and well-established laws, rules & regulations. Enablers choices and subsequent actions are mainly driven by an underlying attitude of avoiding alienation at all cost, let people feel better regardless of the possible long term devastating consequences and are extremely careful to take any actions that may have an adverse monetary impact on his/her personal survivalplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigI.e. the one who's money you take is the words you speak, and when you no longer speak the words, you no longer have access to the money.. Thus, limiting or preventing the much-needed liberating process and impact of the BIG squeeze.
An enabler attitude normally evoke the domino effect, which is in sharp contrast to a facilitator attitude which generally evoke the ripple effect.