Emotional maturity - also referred to as emotional intelligence (EQ) - essentially is the competency that we have to recognize, understand, manage and use or apply our emotions in a healthy, balanced and constructive way to maintain a harmonious environmental fit. Emotional maturity is also about our capability to recognize the emotional states of others and engaging them in ways that feel good to all and create an environmental climate of mutual safety, trust, loyalty and confidence. Emotional maturity consists of the following four essential capabilities…
- Self-awareness – the ability to be acutely conscious of our own emotions and recognize the impact of our feelings on our everyday behaviours an actions (i.e. our habits), while utilizing our gut feeling (i.e. intuition) to direct and guide our decisions. Self-awareness mainly originate from psyche management and self-empowerment, which serves as a solid foundation for a healthy umwelt.
- Self-management – the ability to exercise control over our emotions and feeling in such a manner that it allows us to deal with or adapt to changing circumstances in constructive ways (e.g. to productively deal with future shock). Self-management are steered by efficient psyche management strategies to efficiently deal with emotional barriers, traps and derailers.
It is quite difficult - if not impossible - to accurately assess or determine an individual's level of emotional maturity, because our perceived level of emotional maturity - sourcing from past experiences - differs from moment to moment and from context to context, mainly depending on the circumstances that we are presently confronted with.
For example… Using the stress barometer as a guiding indicator, it is quite evident that our “perceived level of maturity” will be determined by whether we are confronted with a “change in social activities” measuring 14 life change units, or a “major personal injury or illness” measuring 77 life change units. Presumably, the level of emotional maturity to deal with a “major personal injury or illness” is far greater than to deal with a “change in social activities”. However - for argument sake - let's assume for a moment that a “major personal injury or illness” should be dealt with, within the context of a “successful cure” available, and that a “change in social activities” happens in the context of a bloody revolution…
- Think about it! How will these changes in context, influence life change units as experienced by you?
- Think about it! What is the impact on personal stress, helplessness and frustrations experienced?
- Think about it! Which - depending on context - will require the most control of emotions and feelings (i.e. emotional maturity)?