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Approved 20 July, 2020 @ 2:02pm by Jan Viljoen (version: 7)

People don't Change... They Evolve!

We all have traits that make us unique… the ability to be innovative, detail-oriented, visionaries, task-masters, …etc. These qualities make us successful when dealing with the many challenges of change. However, we also have emotional struggles that often sabotage our ability to perform efficiently, which - when neglected, ignored or disregarded - impact negatively on our aspiration-performance cycle. Therefore…

  1. Who moved my cheese?Changing people doesn’t work: To change implies becoming a different person or changing a significant characteristic. For example: this could entail trying to change an individual from being introverted to be extraverted. An introverted person prefers to work alone and recharges by doing activities independently. They thrive on solitary time. To change them into an extravert by forcing them to work in constant collaboration with people and/or continually be around people without breaks, would push them into an unwise directionplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigUnwise direction implies an ignorance or the disregarding of needed individualization and customization's as required by the context of the situation, circumstances or series of events. and to work against their natural strengths and default archetype. It would ultimately not work and make the individual unhappy and frustrated. S/he might be able to sustain the change for a short period of time, but eventually would go back to his/her natural and preferred archetype.
  2. Evolving people does work: To evolve means that we are choosing and deciding to make adjustments that work more efficiently for us to improve our performance results. In the example of the introvert, they may find that their introverted nature is sometimes hindering their success, because they are having a hard time functioning in a group, speaking up at discussions and/or struggle to function in social settings. They need to gradually evolve into someone who can “fake extraversion” when required. For them - stepping into their power - could be to share their knowledge and life with people, to make deeper connections and enhance communications. This slight adjustments allows for growth without compromising their natural inclinations and default archetype.

The benefit is that the introvert will likely find they enjoy being around people, being heard and sharing ideas as long as it’s not too often and they get frequent breaks from interacting with other people. An introvert “faking extraversion” when needed, compel themselves to become a better version of themselves. They will still thrive on natural introverted traits, but will be able to adjust to extraversion in order to obtain better results. The reverse is also true for extraverts, spending less time with idle chatting, and setting more time aside to contemplate and “think about” what is important.

In essence to evolve… is to find and sustain a productive balance and healthy equilibrium between who we are and what is needed, expected or required by the reality of the circumstantial context to establish and sustain a harmonious environmental fit. In short, our… temperament of choice!

Realizing that we are constantly working to evolve ourselves is an integral aspect of life's journey and critical to eventual success. When acknowledging that it’s not a change, but an evolution, enables us to allow for growth through trial-and-error. This gives us the needed courage to fail and learning lessons from both the successes achieved and mistakes made. When we make it about change, it’s a black and white rigidity. With a mindset of change, we are set up to fail because it’s impossible to change who we really are. However, with an evolving mindset, we have the freedom and ability to succeed, because it’s working gradually from of our strengths, while managing our weaknesses effectively, which ultimately lead - not only to bigger gains - but to a more satisfying created life. Most important: the aim is not to evolve for anyone else's sake… this is a selfish endeavor. We can only step into our own power, when we create better versions of ourselves for our own happinessplugin-autotooltip__small plugin-autotooltip_bigHappiness Can Be Learned

A new study coordinated by the University of Trento shows the beneficial effects of an intensive program on happiness.

The results showed that several psychological well-being measures gradually increased within participants from the beginning to the end of the course. That was especially true for life satisfaction, perceived well-being, self-awareness and
and well-being. And from that hard work, we find that everyone grows around us as well.

Don’t attempt to change, strive to evolve. Try to step into your personal power so that you can become a better version of yourself to excel from good to great, to magnificent! By using our natural strengths and being willing to working outside of our current comfort zone, the possibilities of success are limitless. Plus, the emotional self-sabotage is greatly reduced as well.

To evolve imply… illuminating issues, highlight problems, explore perspectives, determine context, investigate suggestions and advice, identify possibilities and seek out alternatives. It is the individual him/herself who has to decided what to adopt and what not to adopt, what to accept, reject and how to apply it in his/her personal and/or professional life. The goal should never be to change anyone. It is rather a question of guiding people towards authentic self-knowledge, which implies living in their full potential and being the best that they can be… an evolutionary process   that continues throughout our life's.